Use Your Words!

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I was being a bum browsing YouTube when I stumbled upon what I think is the greatest advice ever. John Green posted a video in which one of his viewers asked him what she should do about a boy she likes and he ingeniously replied, “Use your words!”

If you don’t know who  John Green is, he has a pretty big following on YouTube. I actually met him once in D.C. Here’s a picture of him and my friends. I’m not in it because I took the picture and I’m not really familiar with his work, so I shoddily photoshopped myself in.

Crappy Photoshopping makes the internet fun!

There have been many instances where a friend comes to me with a problem involving another friend and the simplest solution is usually talking it out amongst themselves. I like to think people already know that but they come to me first because I’m a great listener and everyone loves me. There’s nothing more annoying than passive aggressive behavior. I personally prefer confrontation, probably because I have mental problems but that’s another story for another day. I like to fight, argue, throw all your pent up anger in the air and wave it like you just don’t care. The only time that would be a bad idea is if you’re angry for no reason or unsure of your feelings. In that case you can still use do all the above just add a disclaimer along the lines of, “I’m crazy and I don’t know what I’m talking about but I’m going to say it anyway” and continue with your rant or proclamation of love. And hopefully, they’ll appreciate the honesty. I mean, what’s the worst that can happen?

Disclaimer: I’m crazy and I don’t know what I’m talking about but I’m going to say it anyway. Use your words with caution. I am not liable for any consequences my advice may entail.

Stories of Loss

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I usually try to keep things light and fairly short but this is something that I really needed to talk about.

Earlier this month, I lost my oldest friend and when I say old I mean in terms of age. He died at the age of 90. Every time I spoke to him, he would say that he’s about to “catch the train”. But I didn’t believe him or, at least, I didn’t want to. He was a frequent customer at my mom’s restaurant. He came every Friday regardless of how far he had to drive to get there. When I worked at the restaurant, he used to tell me about the olden days. He would show me things from his high school years because we attended the same one. One time he feel ill while eating at our restaurant and had to be taken to the emergency room. Customers who witnessed this began to think our food might have caused it. He assured them that it wasn’t. He said to them, “I come here every week, these people are like family to me” as he was lying on a stretcher being rolled away. And it’s true, he is family.  He comes to all of our parties, our BBQs, our dinners. He would send me and my sister a birthday card every year. He never forgot. After high school, I rarely went to the restaurant. I hated it, I hated being forced to work there. So I only saw him at family gatherings. I sent him a postcard while I was abroad this past summer and told him I would show him the pictures I took. I thought I should bring my photos and pay him a visit but I never got the chance.

A few days ago, I got an email from my school saying a student passed away from causes unknown. Unfortunately, we get these emails pretty often. But this case was different, this guy was the same major as me. It was possible that he was in some of my classes. Maybe we sat next to each other in lecture and didn’t even know it. That possible connection had an effect on me. Through a series of events, I found out that I actually did meet him. We didn’t have class together. My friend asked me to go with her to his birthday party. I helped her pick out and wrap his gift even though I never met him. We showed up at his house thinking it would be a huge house party, not knowing it was actually a small get together between friends. He immediately welcomed me in, poured me a drink, and chatted away.  He introduced me to Gangnam Style. He just laughed it off when our rowdy dancing caused his picture frames to fall off the wall and shatter. He wouldn’t accept our help and told us to keep dancing while he cleaned it up. He offered me bagel bites, we briefly sang the jingle together. He was outraged when I didn’t know what a perogie was and invited me back to try some. I never took him up on his offer thinking it was just a friendly gesture. That was the first and last time I saw him.

Death is a touchy subject. It doesn’t matter if it was sudden or expected. It doesn’t matter how close they were to you. Death affects all of us. Don’t push things off, if you want to make plans with some one do it. Every time you think, “Hey, I haven’t talked to so and so in a while”, pick up the phone and call, text, email, whatever. Just know that it can happen to anyone at any time. RIP Tommy and Chris, you will be missed.

What I’ve Learned About Job Interviews

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I’ve done my share of interviews in the past (mostly business internships) and though I didn’t always get a job offer, I did pick up a few tips.

Be a Better Version of Yourself

An interview is a lot like going on a first date or meeting the parents. It’s your chance to make a good lasting first impression. Dress better and more professionally than you usually would. Let your personality shine, but make sure it’s nothing inappropriate. Be polite. Talk about your ex, I mean past employer, if needed, and never bash them. Because, more often than not, you will look crazy and whiny regardless of whether or not your employer was horrible. Talk up your strengths, downplay your weaknesses and never lie (which is actually more of a life philosophy than an interview tip).

Focus

I’ve applied to both marketing and design internships and I’ve found that the marketing interviewers thought that I was too creative and not analytical enough while design interviewers thought I was too focused on the business process instead of the visual aspects. Instead of being a little of both, it’s better to focus on one field at a time. Make different resumes for different types of jobs. Emphasize different skills for each of the position. For example, I can use this blog to demonstrate analytical thinking by explaining how I use reports to see which source provides the most traffic and thus determining how I will promote it. See, very business-like. Using this same blog, I can focus more on the design elements like the layout and coding showing them examples of my work and explain how it allows me to experiment with different designs. Which brings me to my next point.

Any Experience Can Be Relevant

At this stage, not many of us has had professional jobs. We then fall in to the unemployment cycle where you can’t get a job because you don’t have experience and you don’t have experience because you can’t get a job. However, if you had a part-time job or even volunteer experience you can put that on your resume. Most employers understand that we’re just starting out so our experience is somewhat limited. Just having a job shows responsibility and commitment. Teamwork, if you’ve worked with others, the ability to multitask and work under pressure for waiters/waitresses, communication skills for sales people and etc. You can even use classwork as an example of past experience. I often get asked questions like “Tell me about a time when you’ve worked in a group and had to demonstrate leadership.” Then you can tell about how you had to pick up slack after the lazy person in your group failed to do his/her part. The beauty of this is that there’s always that one person. If not, then you’re that person and no one likes you. Congratulations!

Research/Reflect

Know about the company before going into the interview. I’ll bring up my dating analogy again. Usually when you’re interested in someone you want to Facebook stalk the crap out of them to get an idea of what you have in common, what you like, what you don’t like, basically how compatible you are. You want to make sure it’s as good a fit for you as you are for them. Except in the working world, it’s socially acceptable! It’s not creepy to know random information about the company because it’s all public, they want you to know. It also makes it easier to answer questions if you know what they’re looking for. Make sure you understand what the position is, because that can be just as important if not more, than the company itself. It will define what you will be doing 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. Working at Google may seem fun, unless you’re the one scooping up poop. Okay, well that doesn’t really make sense but you get the gist.

The interview process also gives you an opportunity to get a feel of the office environment, see it for yourself, ask questions. ALWAYS ASK QUESTIONS. I cannot stress that enough. If there’s something that you didn’t quite understand, now is your time to clarify. It shows that you’re interested and willing to learn more about the job. Showing interest is a definite plus.

Prepare by reading on some interview questions and how people would answer it, especially the very common “tell me about yourself” question. Take this time to reflect on how you would answer them and use other’s replies to help guide you. Learn from other’s mistakes so you don’t have to make them. Learn from your own so you don’t make them again. Evaluate what you want in a job and see if your interests align.

Follow Up

Write thank you letters. Handwritten letters are more memorable but since everything is so fast-paced nowadays I think e-mail is the way to go. You can further show your interest and have another opportunity to showcase your skills. Follow up is key when you haven’t received a reply about their decision. Because some people do forget and this helps to refresh their memory.

Rejection

You win some and you lose some. Mostly lose, because you’re a failure  and should just give up. No, I kid. Kind of. There could be a lot of reasons why you didn’t get the position. You could be under-qualified or over-qualified, there was just someone better, you talked too much, you didn’t talk enough, the interviewer just had a bad day, the position was no longer needed. Whatever it is, don’t take it personally. For whatever reason they didn’t think you were a good fit and it’s probably best for the both of you. Just try to figure what might’ve been your downfall and correct it for your next interview. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again. Sinatra reference, anyone?

 

Keep in mind that these tips/lessons learned are geared towards entry level type positions for college or high school students. I know nothing about salary negotiations and etc. I’m still learning myself. Any tips, tricks or feedback would be appreciated.

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You Can Do It!

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Everyone wants to be successful, to be better at something, to try something new. So why don’t we do it more? Because there’s always something in your way and 9 times out of 10, it’s your brain!

Sure, there are probably other obstacles like financial troubles or time constraints but if you are truly passionate about something you can figure out a way to work around it. With the power of the internet you can learn anything practically anything for free. Money can be saved. Time can be allocated better. Anything is possible. Well I guess I should say most things are possible. But you catch my drift, right?

The biggest hurdle comes from within.  If you don’t believe in yourself, you won’t try. If you don’t try, you automatically fail. If you fail, you’ll be too afraid to try. And the cycle continues. So go out there try something, learn from your mistakes and keep growing.

On a personal note: I’ve been learning Javascript through Code Academy, it’s a fun interactive way to learn code. There are lessons for html and css, too but they’re a little too basic for my liking. You can track my progress here.

 

 

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